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Update:
Well, it looks like my husband is being called back into active duty. We're looking at Jan/Feb time frame. Our anniversary & both b-days are in February. His sister's wedding is in March. He most likely won't be here for those events. We're grateful that he most likely will be here for our son's 2nd b-day though~


Previous Entry:
My life has completely changed since my husband deployed to Kuwait last year (January 2006). When we were dating, he was an officer in the U.S. Navy. He finished his term, but he was required to stay in the Reserves for 3 more years. We got married, became pregnant within two months and when I was 8 1/2 months pregnant, AND a day shy of putting in an offer for a house we loved, we got the most confusing phone call of our lives.

Someone from our local reserves center called to tell him that he has been called back into active duty and that in a month, he would be deploying. He asked about the specifics...but the man who called didn't have any other information except that my husband was being called back into service on January 3...for 12 MONTHS!

I remember laughing hysterically and saying to him, "Don't they know that we're trying to GET OUT of the reserves??? Don't they know we are expecting to have a BABY on January 5???" ...and of course I was crying a lot while I was laughing. I could not believe it...we had gone through so many obstables with our pregnancy and the thought of my husband not being there for our first child's birth was just too much for me to take in. (Now that I think about it, perhaps those obstacles were to teach us and prepare us for when Chris had to leave.)

I wondered if I could get induced so that Chris could at least be present for the baby's birth and to bond with him for a little bit so at my 9 month check up, I asked my NEW doctor if I could have a C-section performed soon. She was very hostile, said no, and I just started bawling and started telling her that my husband was deploying on January 3rd. {{{{{My son is up from his nap! Gotta go, I'll write more later!}}}

Well, I guess I must have had a panic attack because soon, it was getting hard to breathe and I couldn't really control my own body. By this point, I think I made the doctor really uncomfortable because she stepped out. I really could have used some oxygen at that point but she left and my husband was there trying to help me get through that as well. About 30 minutes later, she came back and said that at 39 weeks, she would be willing to schedule me to get induces.

Thankfully, because we induced, my husband was able to be there for our son's birth. But he was set to leave in 5 days and we spent two of those nights apart because I was in the hospital and they did not allow him to stay because I was sharing a room w/another lady. Three days later, he left for Virginia first, for training.

We wanted to spend more time together before he was set to actually go to Kuwait. He told his CO and XO our situation and they graciously allowed me and my son to stay at the Bachelor Officers' Quarter for 3 weeks to be together as a family. I met w/my son's pediatrician and asked when it would be safe to travel w/my son. He said after he is a month old, it would be ok so when he was a month old, we went out to Virginia. There, my husband got to spend a little more time with our son in between his training, meals, and an hour or two in the evening before he had to leave for his place.

Because they allowed us to go there, we got to spend our first anniversary together 2/19 and one of our birthdays 2/20 and 2/22 together...we couldn't celebrate my birthday together because there was a snow storm and he was in a meeting anyways. We got to take some pictures of Jacob with his daddy, and some as a family. But soon, it was time for us to leave. It was the saddest most depressing time. A lot more tears later, I went to visit my parents in southern CA. My mom...a true life saver. She really helped me get through that tough time.

Even though she had some health problems that she was dealing with, she and my dad decided to have my mom stay with me for a month at my place to help me out with my son. I learned a lot about a mother's heart through that time. {{{I'm off to bed, I'll continue again another day!}}}

A little after my son turned 9 months, my husband returned. It was definitely hard raising him alone. It made me think a lot about single parents. The week before his arrival, I was so excited! I couldn't believe my husband would finally be coming home. That week did definitely drag! I had fears that my son & husband wouldn't bond...but I also had hope that they would. When we got to the airport, my husband went straight for the baby (I could understand!). Jacob looked confused but smiled. I thought, great!...Jacob just accepted his dad without a hitch. But...of course, once we got home, it was a different story.

Our son is now 18 months old. To this day, they're still having a hard time bonding. It's getting a little better but he prefers me to his dad. Seeing that he still pushes his dad away, my heart breaks. I'm afraid that this is a foresight of what I can expect when he is 18 YEARS old. But again, I am hopeful that as the years go by, they'll bond and grow closer. Every child needs a dad.

For now, my husband is still in the reserves. He tries to reassure me that he probably won't be called to deploy because his unit isn't prepared but then again, how can I take comfort in that when his buddy, a father of two (ages 3 and 6 months), was just commissioned and left early this month?

We do want to have more children but, I told him that I won't until he is fully out. Right now, with things so crazy in this world of ours, I wouldn't be surprised if he was called back...soon. I don't want to EVER go through pregnancy or raising 2 young children by myself. He understands.

For now, my husband is back to work as an engineer at a nearby company. His work is only 5 minutes away from our house. So he comes home for lunch EVERY day unless he has a lunch meeting or he's away on a business trip. That's why I love this site! He loves trying new things...as long as it's using ingredients that he's used to. Should I ever try experimenting on him with coconut juice? Or monk fish? Well...only if I want him to say let's go eat somewhere else.

I love cooking and who better to cook for than my family~ My specialty would have to be Korean food as I've grown up on it for many many years. I've been blessed with a mom who cooks really well. One day, I'll post up some of the recipes she passed on to me~ I promise these recipes will be better than the molasses substitute! =)

Favorite Foods:

My all time favorite foods are:
1)CHICKEN WINGS...I eat them spicy. I don't like it mild, I need it burning hot!
2)Tommy's chili dogs
3)Green Burrito's Mini Super Nachoes (They don't make it anymore like they used to!)
4)Alberto's carne asada burrito (it's only $3.75 for a HUGE burrito!)
5)pho (I haven't been eating itbecause it makes me gain weight! Now, I don't crave it as much)

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